Common signs that a boundary has been crossed include:

– Feeling resentful or taken advantage of

– Saying “yes” when you want to say “no”

– Feeling guilty for prioritizing your needs

– Experiencing physical symptoms of stress, like tension or exhaustion

If you’re not used to setting boundaries, it can take some practice to identify what you need. Start by reflecting on your values, priorities, and non-negotiables. What do you need to feel safe? Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is ESSENTIAL for your wellbeing and relationships.They help us feel safe, respected, and empowered. But navigating them with compassion for both yourself and others can sometimes feel challenging.

We’re here to support you every step of the way as you learn to set clear, kind boundaries that honor your needs and the needs of those you care about.

Why Boundaries Matter

Boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves in relationships. They protect our time, energy, and emotional wellbeing. Without clear boundaries, we can feel depleted, taken advantage of, or resentful. 

But boundaries aren’t just about saying “no.” They’re also about saying “yes” to what matters most to us. By setting boundaries, we create space for more of what nourishes and fulfills us. This could be more time for self-care, pursuing our passions, or deepening our relationships with the people who lift us up.

Boundaries also help us establish a sense of identity and autonomy. When we’re clear about what we will and won’t accept in our relationships, we communicate our values and standards. This leads to more authentic, respectful connections.

Discovering Your Boundaries

Tuning into your feelings is key to identifying your boundaries. Notice when you feel uncomfortable, anxious, or drained in certain situations or around specific people. Those feelings are often clues that a boundary needs to be set or reinforced.

, respected, and fulfilled in your relationships?

We’ll work with you to get clear on what you need to feel secure and empowered in your relationships. Together, we’ll develop a personalized plan for communicating your boundaries with clarity and compassion.

Communicating with Compassion

Expressing your boundaries can feel vulnerable, especially if you’re not used to putting your needs first. But remember – setting boundaries is an act of self-love and respect. It’s not selfish or mean to have limits.

We’ll help you find language that feels authentic and caring to communicate your boundaries. 

Some tips:

– Use “I” statements to express your feelings and needs, rather than blaming or shaming others. For example, “I feel overwhelmed when I’m asked to take on extra projects at work. I need to focus on my current responsibilities to maintain my wellbeing.”

– Be direct and specific about your limits. Avoid vague or wishy-washy language that leaves room for misinterpretation. 

– Offer alternatives or compromises when possible. This shows that you value the relationship and want to find a solution that works for everyone.

– Remember, you’re not responsible for others’ reactions to your boundaries. You can communicate with compassion, but you can’t control how others choose to respond. 

Compassion for Others

As you set boundaries, extend compassion to others too. They may be learning and growing, just like you. Give them space to adjust to your new limits and encourage open communication.

Remember that others have their own boundaries and needs, which may differ from yours. Practice active listening and seek to understand their perspective. Look for win-win solutions that honor both your needs.

By approaching relationships with empathy and understanding, while still honoring your own needs, you create more opportunities for genuine connection and growth.

Be Patient with Yourself

Learning to set and maintain boundaries is a process. There will be moments of discomfort and times when you don’t get it “perfect.” That’s okay. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you grow.

Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Each boundary you set is a step towards a more empowered, authentic life. With practice, asserting your needs will start to feel more natural.

Remember, you DESERVE to have your needs met and your limits respected. Your boundaries are valid and necessary. We’re here to support you as you cultivate more nourishing, fulfilling relationships – with others and with yourself.

If you’re ready to start your journey towards healthier boundaries, reach out to schedule a session. We’ll be with you every step of the way as you learn to honor your limits with compassion and clarity.